Smalley Law Firm Menu Contact
Discuss Your Case With
An Experienced Lawyer Today
A Standard OfExcellence

Free yourself from guilt to be an effective advocate for elderly

If you have to make some hard decisions for a parent, spouse or other elderly loved one, the guilt can be all-consuming. You tell yourself that you made the best choice for your loved one's health and safety. But you worry that maybe the decision was what was really best for you.

It's important to learn how to move past this guilt in order to be the best possible advocate for your loved one. However, some people have trouble getting to that point. The following information may be of some help to those struggling to find acceptance.

A New York City psychiatrist and medical director of a major institute explains that seeing our parents or other family members as vulnerable and frail is a hard role-reversal to accept. He advises decision-makers to celebrate small victories, like being able to provide aging parents with "excellent palliative care." He also encourages them to "creat[e] meaningful activities" for their parents.

It's also important to think outside of the box, such as considering various ways to keep both parents living together. This might include arranging for 24-hour nursing care or moving both to an inpatient hospice setting to share their final moments together.

One way to avoid crushing guilt over your decisions is to involve your parents in the planning process before they are too debilitated to be able to participate. Discussions with parents about their wishes for living out their golden years can help you later make informed decisions on their behalf.

The medical director also urges caregivers to assist elderly relatives with getting legal documents in place that reflect their preferences, such as health care proxies and living wills. Reviewing their insurance coverage and financial picture will also be helpful when it's time to make decisions regarding their living situations.

Source: A Place for Mom, "Elder Care Guilt: Making Peace with Your Decisions," accessed March 02, 2018

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information

Meet The Attorneys

Email us for a response

Tell us about your case

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

Smalley Law Firm
305 East Comanche Street
Norman, OK 73069

Phone: 405-322-5653
Fax: 405-801-2220
Map & Directions