Smalley Law Firm Menu Contact
Discuss Your Case With
An Experienced Lawyer Today
A Standard OfExcellence

4 dangerous domestic violence and child custody myths

Child custody proceedings can bring out the worst in people, particularly if domestic violence is also a factor. If you are embroiled in your own child custody battle that has elements of violence or abuse, you likely already know this. What you might not know is that believing in certain custody myths might worsen the risk for you and for your children.

Most myths are relatively harmless, but some can be downright dangerous. Anytime your safety or that of your children is at stake, it is worth the effort to find out if some of your child custody or family law beliefs are in fact erroneous. Below you will find four common beliefs associated with child custody that research has shown to be false.

Myth: Abusive parents never get custody of the children.

Fact: Research shows that abusive parents try harder to acquire sole custody with a success rate of about 70 percent.

Myth: A fit mother will not lose child custody.

Fact: A fit mother who has endured domestic abuse may suffer from depression or post-traumatic stress disorder, which can affect the way they present in court.

Myth: If children show no fear of an alleged abusive parent, then the parent is fit to have custody.

Fact: In a phenomenon known as traumatic bonding, children may develop an unusually strong but unhealthy attachment to an abusive parent.

Myth: Child abuse is not connected to other forms of domestic violence.

Fact: Unfortunately, many studies have shown that child abuse and domestic violence do overlap.

The bottom line: You and your children's mental, emotional and physical safety is the most important factor in child custody determinations. If violence or abuse is a factor in your Oklahoma divorce, it is wise to seek counsel from an experienced family law attorney.

Source: American Bar Association, "10 Custody Myths and How to Counter Them," accessed Feb. 17, 2017

No Comments

Leave a comment
Comment Information

Meet The Attorneys

Email us for a response

Tell us about your case

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

Smalley Law Firm
305 East Comanche Street
Norman, OK 73069

Phone: 405-322-5653
Fax: 405-801-2220
Map & Directions